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The Internet has become a convenient, common and
acceptable new place to find matches for smart,
eligible people. As a result, many individuals are
looking for relationships online with people they
have not met and know little about. Since NikahHelpLine.com
has good experience in the Muslim matrimonial service,
NikahHelpLine.com make the experience enjoyable and safe,
it is still necessary for you to exercise some simple
precautions for your safety. The following guidelines
below have been put together to help you avoid uncomfortable
situations and other problems. Please read carefully
and refer to these often!
Guard your anonymity.
TAKE YOUR TIME, and ask lots of questions. Don't
give out any personal information, including your
email address. Use Mingle Mail first, which allows
you to send and receive mail without using your
real address. Get a good idea of what a person may
be like before you give them your email address.
You can set up free email accounts through services
such as Yahoo, Juno, Hotmail, and others. Never
give out your last name, home address, phone number,
work information, or any other identifying information
in your profile or initial emails. Stop communicating
with anyone who pressures you for personal information
or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing
it. Simply ignore them.
Use common sense and
be cautious.
Don't believe everything you read or are told, whether
it is on a profile, in a Mingle Mail, on the message
boards, or in the chat room. Watch out for a person
who is simply too good to be true. Watch closely
for odd behavior, the person may not be what he
or she says. Trust yourself and your gut! You're
responsible to take all the time you need to make
sure a person is honest and trustworthy. If your
gut tells you that someone is lying, they very likely
are. Dont get hurt by becoming prematurely intimate
with someone. Don't be in a rush to fall in love,
it will happen when it happens.
Ask for a photo.
A photo will verify a person's profile information
and give you a good idea of appearance. If you keep
getting excuses, it is probable that he or she is
trying to hide something. Our site will scan in
a photo for free, so there really aren't any good
excuses for not doing it. A person may also send
you a photo of somebody else. Be cautious.
Communicate first through
Online
When you like someone, first start with communicating
online like email or online chat. Do not jump into
telephonic conversations or personal meetings prematurely.
Take your time and give yourself a chance to know
more about the person. You can use NikahHelpLine.com’s personal
messaging system, which is completely anonymous.
. In addition to it being important for your safety,
it’s simply practical! While searching online, chances
are you would be communicating with several potential
partners at the same time. In such a scenario, it
would be extremely difficult and expensive to keep
in touch with them all, over the phone or in person.
Use the telephone,
a pay phone first
When you want to move to the next step, at the right
time, a phone call will tell you many things about
a persons ability to communicate. Do not give out
your phone number to a stranger. Trust takes time
to develop. Keep your number anonymous if possible,
and use the conversation to find out more about
the person to make sure you want to meet. Also call
your parents, wali, friend, or a family member.
The more people you talk to, the safer and more
sure you will be. Only share your phone number when
you feel absolutely sure about trusting the person.
If you are being pressured to meet, ask to speak
to the persons mother first.
Meet only when you
are ready.
Many times our excitement about a person makes us
impatient.........Be Patient! One of the wonderful
things about meeting somebody online is that you
can gain so much information about a person before
you feel you need to meet. You have NO obligation
to meet anyone, ever. Stay away from that people
that make you uncomfortable.
Warning signs.
Behavior such as anger, demeaning or disrespectful
comments, physically inappropriate comments and
behavior, intense frustration or attempts at pressuring
or controlling you are obvious warning signs. Stay
away from people like this, just ignore them. Below
are a few more things to watch for:
- Information about age, interests, appearance,
marital status, profession, employment, and other
information is inconsistent.
- Will not speak to you on the phone after establishing
an ongoing relationship.
- Dodges and will not directly answer questions.
- Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions.
- In person is quite different from his or her
online profile.
- Will not introduce you to friends, professional
associates or family members.
Remember, that while some people do fake their
profiles, most others are simply genuine singles
looking for a good match - much like your self!
Also, if you do find out that a person has embellished
his/her profile do contact our customer support
service. We at NikahHelpLine.com have strict rules and policies
for misrepresentation on the site.
Meeting the first time,
never go alone.
Take a friend, always! Choose the safest possible
environment. Even if you think you know every detail
about a person and you trust them implicitly, meet
in public where many people are around. Also, tell
someone where you are going and when you will be
back. Give your date's name and telephone number
or any other information to that person. Use your
own transportation to get to and from the date.
Go somewhere very familiar to you. Be brief, one
or two hours is plenty. There is no need for a 5-10
hour date! You will have plenty of time for that
later. If your date disagrees with this guideline
or any of the guidelines listed here, you shouldn't
meet that person.
Traveling far to meet
someone.
Use your own transportation always. Don't allow
your date to make the arrangements. If the location
where you are meeting seems unsafe, awkward, or
inappropriate - go back to your hotel. And of course,
make sure a friend or family member knows your plans
and has your contact information. Take a cell phone
with you if you can.
How to get out of a
jam.
Just leave. Its always better to be safe than sorry.
Your safety is obviously more important than worrying
about embarrassment, your behavior, or what another
person may think of you. Just leave.
We, at NikahHelpLine.com want to ensure that
you have a wonderful experience. If you feel we
have left something out of these guidelines, please
let us know!
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